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Understanding Family Dynamics: Building a Functional Family, Exams of Dynamics

The importance of family dynamics and how patterns of relating between family members can impact the well-being and stability of a family. It highlights the role of a functional family in creating an environment of love, respect, and harmony, and the impact of individual family members on the whole. The document also explores the story of King David's dysfunctional family as a lesson in family dynamics.

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  • What can we learn from King David's dysfunctional family?
  • What are family dynamics?
  • How does a functional family create a harmonious environment?

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Family Dynamics
Building a Dynamic Functional Family
I. SCRIPTURE
Psalm 127:1a Except YAHUAH [God] build the house, they labor in vain that build
it.
II. INTRODUCTION
As we look at the front of today’s bulletin, we see a picture of what appears to be a
happy, multicultural family. This is a photo of 15 persons, with what appears to be a
white man and woman at the bottom who I would guess are the parents. And there
appears to be a mix of beautiful black and white children, a beautiful Hispanic
daughter or daughter-in-law, and a grandchild or maybe even grandchildren.
The scripture below this photograph reads “like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so
are the children of one’s youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them”.
It is taken from Psalm 127, verses 4 and 5. Yet, today’s scripture, although taken
from Psalm 127, is from verse 1. It reads “except YAHUAH [God] build the house,
they labor in vain that build it”.
The title of today’s message is “Family Dynamics”; the subtitle is “Building a Dynamic
Functional Family”. Do you know what “Family Dynamics” means?
III. FAMILY DYNAMICS
Once, some years ago, when Hydie and I and our girls were visiting San Francisco, we
were invited into the home of a close Asian acquaintance of ours. I’ll never forget
what my Asian friend said to me before he introduced us to his rather large
immediate and extended family. He said, “Rich, I want to introduce you to my
family so that you will learn more about our family dynamic… about how we interact
with each other as family”.
A. DEFINITION
Family Dynamics the patterns of relating, or interactions, between family
members.
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Family Dynamics

“ Building a Dynamic Functional Family ”

I. SCRIPTURE

Psalm 127 :1a – “ Except YAHUAH [God] build the house, they labor in vain that build it. II. INTRODUCTION As we look at the front of today’s bullet in, we see a picture of what appears to be a happy, multicultural family. This is a photo of 1 5 persons, with what appears to be a white man and woman at the bottom who I would guess are the parents. And there appears to be a mix of beautiful black and white children, a beautiful Hispanic daughter or daughter-in-law, and a grandchild or maybe even grandchildren. The scripture below this photograph reads “like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them”. It is taken from Psalm 127, verses 4 and 5. Yet, today’s scripture, although taken from Psalm 127, is from verse 1. It reads “ except YAHUAH [God] build the house, they labor in vain that build it”. The title of today’s m essage is “Family Dynamics”; the subtitle is “Building a Dynamic Functional Family”. Do you know what “Family Dynamics” mean s? III. FAMILY DYNAMICS Once, some years ago, when Hydie and I and our girls were visiting San Francisco, we were invited into the home of a close Asian acquaintance of ours. I’ll never forget what my Asian friend said to me before he introduced us to his rather large immediate and extended family. He said, “Rich, I want to introduce you to my family so that you will learn more about our family dynamic… about how we interact with each other as family”. A. DEFINITION Family Dynamics the patterns of relating, or interactions, between family members.

According to Psychology Today, having close family relationships can afford a person within a higher well-being and lower rates of depression and disease throughout his or her lifetime. But… in many families, getting along isn't a given. The interaction between various members is at the core of these complicated dynamics. In many of our families, we often have stereotypical sources of disharmony that obnoxious uncle, that middle child or the one more loved, or the ne’er do - well son-in-law, or whomever that we joke about. And yet, there are factors such as the family environment or sibling rivalries that do emerge, that determine the viability and stability of our family networks. B. A FUNCTIONAL FAMILY Peace and harmony may be the goal, but family dysfunction is tricky and can come in many forms. When one family member has to contend with a problem such as alcoholism, drug abuse, domestic violence, sexual exploitation, neglect, or depression, then the entire household is impacted. Slights and misbehaviors need to be readily addressed by the family to avoid disharmony in the longer term. In a functional family, parents within strive to create an environment in which everyone feels sale, heard, loved, and respected. This requires parents to set and uphold rules, but yet not to resort to overly rigid regulation (remember do not provoke your children to anger?). This sounds easy, but it can be really hard to achieve. For example, family quarrels and grudges can have lasting effects, sometimes following members into old age. Some reasons for such conflict are that parents do not enforce rules that guide healthy behavior… home isn’t a safe place for its members… there is not sense of unity… there is no healthy communication. C. UNDERSTANDING ELOHIYM [God]’s FAMILY DYNAMICS DESIGN As our creator, ELOHIYM [God] designed a world filled with dynamic relationship systems. We see them in creation, in the work place, in organizations, and in groups to which we belong such as this congregation. A system is defined in the Merriam-Webster dictionary as “a regularly interacting or interdependent group of items forming a unified whole.” So, in truth, a relationship system can be a set of individual and unique parts working together or connected as whole.

The story of David and Bathsheba is well known. David sees Bathsheba bathing on the roof, brings her to his palace, and sleeps with her. Bathsheba becomes pregnant, and in an attempt to cover up his sin, David secretly orders Uriah to the most dangerous part of the battle, where he is killed, thus leading to yet another sin. These incidents happened when Amnon, Tamar, and Absalom were teenagers. For sure, these children saw their father model behavior that was manipulative and treacherous. The children learned from their father David to hide or keep secrets, avoid issues, and learned how to ignore the hurt that grew out of one’s own actions. And just in this basic introduction of David, you and I can gather that his family appeared to have a disconnected and chaotic system. One of the tragedies of David’s family is that it appears that David would ignore rather than face and deal with the incest between Amnon and Tamar. (This is chaotic , due to David’s lack of family leadership). Then, two (2) years later, Absalom choses to take things into his own hands (again, this is chaotic , due again to David’s lack of leadership within his family). (David would move into a place of authority and “discipline” Ammon in an unbiblical manner.) After the sheering of sheep was complete, Absalom invited his family and Amnon over to his house for a party. After Amnon had heavily drank, Absalom murdered his brother Amnon to avenge Tamar (this is again chaotic ; an excessive expression of emotions and disconnected , with a low level of loyalty toward family and is disconnected from emotional pain each member was experiencing). Absalom seemed to take pride in the murder, feeling justice had been served. Absalom eventually flees to avoid the consequences of the murder (again, this is chaotic and disconnected ). Absalom was in exile from his family for three years (again, disconnected ). Pause for a moment and consider who in David’s family is often considered the “bad guy.” Likely it is Absalom. The reality is, however, that David’s whole family needed to deal with a number of issues. And we should not fail to consider that most of the dysfunction of David’s family started with David himself… his sinful actions. While in his guilt, while he “kept silent”… while his “bones grew old”… while he was “ groaning all the day long ”… while YAHUAH [God]’s “ hand was heavy upon [him ’” , and while his vitality was turned into the drought of summer…” a perfect storm of dysfunction was building within (both) his immediate and extended family. Each of David’s family members had hurts and wounds; each family membe r needed help. And yet, for some reason it appears that David himself was unable to take the appropriate steps to deal with the dysfunction. Amnon should have been dealt

appropriately dealt with… the emotional damage that was done to Tamar should have be en addressed… for the pain of Amnon’s violation likely devastated Tamar’s whole life , wouldn’t you think? W e need to consider the various biblical principles and processes within a family’s dynamics… we need to consider the role of each family member with in… so that we can illustrate a correct Gospel of Truth and illustrate YAHUAH [God]’s G race within the family… and without. So, we need to apply biblical concepts to each family process. YAHUSHA [Jesus] modeled balanced behavior and expression in His interaction with the Body. YAHUSHA [Jesus] was full of both Grace and Truth , for He “became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen His glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of Grace and T ruth” (John 1:14). YAHUSHA [Jesus] also modeled flexibility. While he set an example for us, and taught us about how we should behave… He maintained a laser focus on the work that His Father had for Him. At times His work including moving to a different village (Luke 4:43- 44 ) while on other occasions, it meant being present with children (Matthew 19:13- 15 ) interacting with outcasts (Luke 5:29- 31 ) … and working closely with His own family of disciples (John 13). V. BUILDING A DYNAMIC FUNCTIONAL FAMILY: AT HOME & IN THE CHURCH Now, I ask that you reflect on your own family experiences. It is helpful to remember the limits and freedoms that were operating there… and maybe are even still part of your family dynamics. As you reflect on these limits and freedoms, you can see how they have greatly shaped you (inside and out) and have influenced the roles of each individual within your family (whether your immediate or extended family). This reflection process is not about blaming your parents … blaming your children or someone else. It is likely that your parents did the best they knew how … that your children or grandchildren are a product of their environment maybe they are even a product to some extent of the environment that you have created for them. Next, I ask that you reflect on your “family” experience here within this body… within YAHUAH [God]’s Church. For this Body, this Church is no less than the Body, the C hurch of YAHUSHA HA’MASHIACH [Jesus Christ] Himself. For what you are seeing here today… what you are experiencin g here today… are most likely, in part at least, of how you have impacted it by your individual interaction … or lack of interaction with it. Consider… How have you contributed to this body…? Are you judging the other body members here through your own eyes … are you interacting with others , looking at others here